Living in a bedspace in Dubai
Men living in their own houses in Dubai or company accommodation and they have never stayed in a bedspace should consider renting in a bedspace. Because they are missing some lessons that society has never and will never teach them. Especially those men who were raised by religious parents in a religious environment. For instance, if you are a devoted Christian man, you have been taught that sex is sacred and is worth waiting until marriage. But you will be shocked that things on the ground are different when you see your sister in christ serving several brethren in a bedspace.
There is more to life
Majority of African men comes to UAE to search for jobs with visit visa. To those who fail to secure a job before their visa expire normally manifest ideas on how to spend their last days in Dubai. Some of those ideas are; visiting some (if not all) tourist attraction sites like Dubai Frame and Discovery gardens. Becoming adventurous by doing road trips around the Emirates or yacht rides.
Then there some ideas majority of people will term them weird that normally comes in mind. For instance, coming from different country and race some men will develop an innate desire to mate with foreign women. Achieving this may serve as consolation of not securing a job. Therefore, going back home without too much stress and some relief, making them adjust and move on with their normal life.
To those who secures jobs, they normally find it difficult to make time to live up the full life of Dubai compared to those who didn’t. This may be attributed to staying in a company accommodation where they are limited to interact physically with people of their own. If you are in this situation, consider applying for a leave out allowance and rent in a bedspace. In a bed space you will discover the magic of Dubai and life in general. Jobseekers who are accommodated by their well-paid relatives I also suggest you move in a bedspace to do your job hunting from there.
Lesson 1: Sex
On a religious and African traditional perspective sexual intercourse should only happen in marriage. This was and is still an ideal for most people but is it practical in this era hormonal birth controls? To most men traveling from Kenya to Dubai means getting a job and moving out of poverty to financial freedom. But some normally miss the forest for the trees. Meaning they become to immensely in work and forget to live their life wholesomely like men. This may make them vulnerable to manipulation and taken advantage by the women.
Sex before marriage is a sin
For a long time since we were boys, we have been told by society that a woman who makes you wait for sex until marriage is a good woman and a treasure. But is it true? Is sex before marriage still hold its practicability? You will get these answers when rent a bedspace. If you happen to rent a bedspace with alpha males (men who have peculiar attributes that make many women want to have sex with). You will realize that sex is not worth waiting for or proofing your worth to get laid. Because you will observe that these guys(alpha males) having sex with married, devoted christians and single ladies in the same room at different timings. Doing so with ease just like playing a game. And the funny part is, all these women knows that they are being played by the same guy.
Sex is sacred
Majority of men who were raised with strong religious or traditional African morals come here with mentality of sex is sacred or divine act. But am sure majority of those guys that used to believe these memes will agree with me that, sex is just a pleasurable act to both men and women. Only that women require some magical imaginations to get aroused to want to have sex compared to men who need only visualization to get aroused.
Many christian guys will be surprised when they see men and women renting a single bed. Sleeping together could be a little far-fetched surprise but when these couples have sex while everyone is in the room is a gross sin according christianity. If you are devoted christian guy you will be more confused because these two couples are also devoted christians that goes to church every Saturday of the week. Seeing this acts will trigger your mind and start unlearning the lies you have been told since you started having sexual desires.
Becoming part of the game
Observing all these, your eyes will be opened and you will start evaluating yourself. But it will happen if you analyze these situations rationally and not morally. Because if you chose the latter instead of learning the game of intersexual dynamics you will start shaming and calling these guys players or dick-headed men. But you will gain a lot when you approach it rationally because you will ask yourself uncomfortable questions. Questions like “Is it worth spending too much on this girl to get laid, and the guy next bed doesn’t need to spend anything to get laid by same gal?”
Lesson 2: Sharing and patience
Some Last borns and only children in family normally have entitlement issues, this make them lack important attributes in life such as patience and sharing. Most of you will agree with me that these guys don’t like sharing but owning everything. If you fall in this category I recommend you seek out leave out allowance to rent a bedspace.
In a bedspace you will learn sharing by force -because no one will baby sit you. In a bedspace you will share cooking utensils, washroom and cooking gas. For instance, If you want to cook you will have to follow the queue if there is any even if you are in hurry to go somewhere. Patience will grow in you naturally because you will have no one to vent to because you are being made to wait and you are not used to waiting.
Lesson 3: Thug-life
Some of us come from good neighborhood, went to good schools where we had soft lives. If you lived this kind of life please rent a bed in a bedspace to experience the real thug-life. A bedspace is a complete society of itself meaning, it has all types of people, good and bad which is a good thing for character development. If you a soft boy you will be toasted until you become graduate to man.
For instance, You can cook good food and store some in the fridge to eat as lunch at work. But upon checking in the morning when going to work find nothing and when you ask around you will get no answer. Therefore, if you didn’t have money to buy food at work you will be forced to fast. These are some of the character development you will undergo on transitioning from nice guy to man. These developments will transcend to other social aspect of your life. For example, you will be able to create your own boundaries that will prevent other people from pushing you around like you were a nice guy.
i think you are wonderful! keep writing i enjoyed reading your perspective so much. kudos
Thanks Violet for your kind comment.
Hey Lucas, I enjoyed reading this piece. It make a lot of sense.
Thank you,Ronnie.
Was planning to go to Dubai thanks for this
Thank you Janet, and welcome to Dubai.