Working in Dubai: Why Raise Another Man’s Child?

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If you are a bachelor at the age of 25 to 30 years working in Dubai you are doomed to marry a woman with children, of the same age or older than you. At this age, it is believed that it is deficult for you to attract and seduce a younger woman, and if you do it is late to have your firstborn. Therefore, it is advisable to start your game with an away goal to be on par with your peers. As a result, you find yourself raising other men’s children.

There is also a social conversation that shames men who date young women (18+) and refers to them as pedophilic. And since pedophilia is disgusting we are left to choose women who didn’t see our value when trying to make ends meet while young.

Young girls are immature

It is also believed that younger women are immature and therefore it will be difficult for a 30 years old guy to reason with a girl of 20 years in marriage. Again for this reason the man is convinced to settle for less because he is supposed to look for a partner who they will be able to reason with.

When will you settle down; you don’t have time

If you have ever stayed(or staying) in a bedspace you might have been asked whether you have a child, wife, or both back home. Those with families find it easy to answer this question because when they say yes the interrogation stops. But owe unto to those who say no, the questioning does not stop as other series of questions follow along. For example, how old are you? Are you in a long-term relationship? When do you intend to settle down? Etc.

These questions normally disturb almost all bachelors living and working in Dubai. Because every bachelor’s dream is to have a wife and children to pass his genes to the next generation like his ancestors. Bachelors in Dubai normally feel more pressured to settle down because of peer pressure and distance. Consequently, some end up falling prey to predatory women. And that’s why in every two bedspaces you visit in Dubai you will see a guy — without a wife and a child back home, in a serious relationship with a woman who has children back home.

It’s okay being a stepfather

To make it worse you will hear they have been in that relationship for many years without conceiving a child together. Imagine staying with someone who you have technically married — by taking full responsibility for her and her children, without your children for four years! Even a blank blanket fool will know he is being carried for a ride. But he cannot know because feminism has told him that real men don’t fear being stepfathers.

I have seen several settling for this kind of relationship in bedspaces. For instance, there is this guy we used to stay in the same bedspace when I was new in Dubai. At first, I thought he was a bachelor like me because I could only see him when going to work evening as I returned from tarmacking.

Relationships in Dubai are transactional

One day while chilling with my fellow jobseeker on the balcony, he started telling me how he feels sorry for one guy in our room. He felt sorry because the guy was dating a lady who he would consider his mother in terms of age. I was also shocked as I could not imagine how a young guy like him with a good-paying job settle with a fat, older woman with children. I couldn’t fathom why as I joined my friend in feeling sorry for him.

I later realized that these kinds of relationships were normal in bedspaces because most of them were transactional with less feeling attached. For example, as a man, you foot all the bills from the bed rent to food and in return, you get unlimited sex. So it was not a big deal since they were just enjoying themselves sexually without any long-term plans.

If it is just sex, why should you school her children?

But there was more than meet the eye in this union, as later on I discovered that the guy was very serious with this relationship. Why? Because if your relationship is just causal with no strings attached why should you be responsible for your partner’s children’s welfare? Why should you pay their school fees? Why should you foot their medical bills if they get ill? By doing all these it means that you are focused and serious about the union as a man.

As a curious person, I wanted to know why this guy was digging his own grave because I believed everything has a cause. Therefore, I decided to dig deeper into his background to know why he decided to settle for less and not explore his options like other men.

Scarcity mind = Nice guy

As time went on I learned that in his entire Dubai life, he had only two girlfriends I.e the ex and the current one with zero incidents of cheating. I got more confused because his character defines what all women want. You will hear all women say they like men who don’t cheat, are responsible, financially stable, etc. Then why were they not fighting to have him? I asked myself.

His girlfriends were the ones cheating but because he was an understanding and nice guy he could forgive them and accept them back. It is at this point I realized the dangers of a scarcity mindset. The belief of if you lose the one —God has given, you will never get another one and you are doomed to a lonely life. And that’s why he was sacrificing his monthly salary to maintain her and the children, as he believed if don’t do that the lady will abandon him.

The woman is not to be blamed

The majority of people might blame the lady for manipulating him to spend his energy and resources to support raise her children and support her financially. But that could be wrong. Why? Because that is how women are. Women only attach themselves where there is value, where they can benefit.

Their unconditional attachment or love is only reserved for their children. You have heard mother’s love is unconditional. It is true, your mother can do anything for you! For instance, in our case, if the lady doesn’t siphon our guy to fund her children’s school fees, it might be difficult to school them and save for their future at the same time. So the lady is just playing her cards right.

The guy also

Now should we blame the guy, If I say yes then it will imply that he should know that he is being taken for a ride. Of which he indeed knows; only that he is in denial.

He is in denial because the matrix has been telling him every day that real men don’t fear being stepfathers. Real men don’t judge women’s past, real men do this and that nonsense. So our man is forced to suppress his innate urge to pursue young and fertile women to expand his generation but instead further other men’s generation.

It is satan then

Since I cannot blame either of them, as a Christian am left with satan to blame. But satan would argue that people use him as a scapegoat for their failure, of which I agree with him 100%.

For example, if a girl has one nightstand with a hot—Tall, dark, lean, and handsome(cute), guy in a disco matanga if caught she will blame satan. But Satan is not to be blamed because women are wired to be attracted to guys with these attributes. On the other hand, if men get caught cheating they will also blame the devil. But the devil is not to be blamed because evolutionaly men are polygamous therefore exploring their options is their default nature.

The matrix and the system

So who is responsible for this heinous act? Is it the matrix cum system? I think yes. Since the matrix has been propagating romantic love, where every person is destined for his soulmate. Then you will not find it strange to see a guy who has stayed single and sexless for the longest time worshiping an older woman who accepted him as he is. And if you tell him what he is doing is wrong he will accuse you of trying to ruin his destiny.

Then if it’s the system how do we unplug?

The first thing we should know as men is that we are different from women. For example, in terms of the biological clock, it is believed that men’s and women’s sexual market values depreciate at the same rate as they age. But is it true? Not really. A simple example, you will often see women prefer men older than them. Then I beg the question if we are the same why not prefer men of the same age?

The truth is, women’s values depreciate as they age, and men’s value increase as they age. You will ask why. The short answer is; men’s value doesn’t come naturally like that of women. It takes time and effort to be financially stable, fit, and lean, and in acquiring social skills like decisiveness. Of which all women find attractive in men.

Therefore, if you are a bachelor at 30 you should not feel pressured to marry a woman who is fat, older than you, or comes with her children. You deserve better! What you should do is get to the gym if you are fat to get lean and fit, pursue excellence, and approach and seduce all women you find attractive.

As I conclude

By adhering to all the 3 practices you will find yourself outside of the matrix web. You will become a high-value man, who every woman desires to have sex with and other men want to be. At this status, you have the power to explore your options because you will be operating from an abundance mindset rather than a scarcity mindset.

By the way, I should add that chasing excellence doesn’t mean making money alone. Most men believe that having money alone will make women desire to have sex with them but it’s not true. It takes a basket of many things for a woman to have a genuine desire to fuck you, money is part of them but not the only thing.

Money alone will enable you to pay a prostitute —and have genuine sex. Vibes/social skills alone will get you laid genuinely but its consequences might be dire as it involves deception; if done on the wrong person. A lean and fit body alone will also get you laid genuinely but not for too long.

Therefore, combining the 3 practices will completely remove you from the matrix and become a high-status man working in Dubai.

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4 Responses

  1. Ronnie says:

    Life in Dubai is really amazing. Nice article, Lucas.

  2. Me says:

    Well explained…life is not balanced
    We left home to change our homes… remember the goal

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